Manners and honesty: a guide to social norms in the UK, part 1.

A lot of fellow Hungarians, the exact number most likely somewhere in the realm of hundreds of thousands, have chosen to leave their country behind to temporarily or permanently stay in the United Kingdom. Naturally, they might encounter difficulties when it comes to dealing with social situations: this article serves as a guide for them, and for anyone who is interested.

Before we delve deep into the swirling whirlpool of everyday etiquette, it is important to note that none of the statements described below is a scientific fact. They are all based on my personal experiences and as such, are obviously very subjective: not to mention the broad generalisations that will undoubtedly occur. Nonetheless, I hope it will suffice as the first part of what I intend to be a multi-entry series.

Manners vs honesty: Be polite

Today’s topic is what I found to be the most difficult one: being polite at the expense of being honest. The south of the UK, where I am currently staying, is generally very polite. Actually, polite to the point where it feels weird and over the top for many Eastern Europeans. The constant “can I have x and y please?” and “are you alright?” questions are used in contexts that are alien to most Hungarians: the former is how you order something in a bar or a restaurant while the latter is a form of greeting.